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4 Tips for Practicing Abstinence Until Marriage



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We live in a world that promotes sex. It is on almost every TV show, commercial, song, and billboard This can make it more of a challenge for you and your guy when you have made plans to practice abstinence. Recently, singer Ciara and her boyfriend, Seattle Sehawks player Russell Wilson have been in the news for their decision to wait. Here are 4 tips to help you achieve your goal of practicing abstinence until marriage:
1. Talk about it. : It is important that you and your guy have a talk about staying abstinent until you walk down the aisle. You might have to have more than one talk, and that is okay. Ladies, explain to him why it is important to you. If you plan on waiting until marriage, be sure to explain this fully so that he understands where you are coming from. Also, do not be afraid to quote the Bible either. Here are some verses you can read together:
  • Hebrews 13:4 says, Let marriage be held in honor by all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
  •  1 Corinthians 7:2 says, Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
  •  1 Corinthians 6:18 says, Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body.
Be sure to explain the benefit of building a stronger relationship so that your bond is not based on the physical. This way, you both will be on one accord.


2. Stay off the couch! : I know you're thinking, "What?" Try not to put yourself in situations that you know could lead to you giving into the temptation of breaking your period of abstinence. For example, you might want to consider avoiding long periods of kissing because this can lead to something more.

3. Find activities outside of the house. Go out! Go to church, the movies, mall, miniature golfing LOL, amusement parks, etc. Most of those places provide you with great opportunities to really get to know each other, and you will learn to really enjoy each others company. It can help strengthen your relationship without a physical connection.

4. PRAY. : Practicing abstinence is not an easy thing, but it is not impossible.  Pray with and for your guy, and he should also do the same for you. Matthew 19:26 reminds us by saying, "But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this impossible, but with God all things are possible." Plus, Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me".

 Lastly, remember that waiting until marriage will not always be easy, but you can do it.

Are you or someone you know practicing abstinence until marriage?

 
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