Dealing with the Loss of Your Mother on Mother's Day

Dealing with grief on Mother's day is not an easy task. I was debating with myself on whether I wanted to write this post but hopefully, it will help someone. I wanted to start off by saying that it is okay if you're not okay on Mother's Day. I lost my mother back in 2006. So, the day is not easy for me. If you've lost a child, you might be struggling with Mother's Day grief as well. Here are 5 ways that help me get through the day:

1. Celebrate All the Mom Figures in My Life

I use the day to let the mom figures in my life like my sisters and 2nd grandmother know that I love and appreciate them. 

2. Remember the Good Times

I like to think about all of the good times my mother and I had. Reflecting on the things she taught me makes me smile. Also, looking at pictures of her can be very comforting.

3. Write My Feelings in a Journal

Writing your feelings down in a journal can be therapeutic. Sometimes, I will also write down the things I am thankful for to help me put things into perspective. 

4. Check On Your Friends and Family

I would also invite you to check on your motherless friends and friends who have lost their children on Mother's Day. That can be comforting for both of you.

5. Pray On It

Prayer also helps me get through the day. Ask God to carry the burden of your grief. "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." - Matthew 5:4

More Thoughts....

If you need to cry, allow yourself to do it. Don't let the popular belief that you need to enjoy the day, make you feel like you can't express your feelings. Talking to your friends and family can help you handle the grief. Doing things you enjoy like watching your favorite movies can also help. Hanging with my friends and family helps me.

I want to also acknowledge the awkward period between losing your mom and having your own kids can be particularly difficult.

To everyone who is grieving on Mother's Day, I just want to say you're not alone. 

To all of the moms: Happy Mother's Day!

Are you dealing with grief on Mother's Day? If so, how are you dealing with it?